How to become that girl

How to become that girl

Being that girl requires you to focus on yourself and nothing but yourself; it is not a certain standard you have to meet, but a lifestyle. A lifestyle you choose to live where you start creating habits, developing them, and sticking to them. Being that girl means reaching your highest self, the best version of yourself, the person you thrive to become, and by doing so, you become that girl. That girl has lots of meanings, but what is that girl to you? How do you see yourself being that girl? Is she the type of girl who wakes up early every morning to go to work, or is she the one who stays up all night to work on her business, or is she the girl who’s living her best life in every possible way? You decide what being that girl really means to you. Being that girl means reaching your highest potential, but how do you really become that girl?

Set your priorities

First, you have to identify your priorities and work on them. What is your main goal? What makes you wake up every morning, and you're willing to spend all day working on it? A certain routine followed every day will help you be that girl, but what’s important is sticking to it. Certainly, I started feeling like that girl when I created a routine and started sticking to it. I managed to build certain habits and boundaries to learn to respect myself more and for people to respect me and know their limits with me. For example, I set a rule that no one should wake up after 9 a.m., so eventually I started following that rule and trying to stick to it as much as I could. Even if I feel tired, I push myself as much as I can in the morning because self-discipline is what will help me create a habit, and that’s what’s called self-respect. You build a habit and stick to it no matter how much you’re tired or feeling unmotivated; a habit is a habit.

Define Your Own Version of "That Girl"

Before embarking on your journey to becoming "that girl," it's important to take some time to define what that means to you. "That girl" can represent different things to different people. Is she someone who is ambitious and career-driven? Is she someone who radiates positivity and kindness? Consider the qualities that resonate with you and align with your values. This self-reflection will serve as your foundation as you embark on this transformative journey. Set your standards and boundaries; first, start by asking yourself what is acceptable to me and what is not; how do I want to see myself in 2 years; what things do I want to achieve in these 2 years; and, upon the answers to those questions, ask yourself what steps I should take into consideration and what habits I should start to build for my future self.

Cultivate Self-Confidence

One of the most important aspects of becoming "that girl" is cultivating self-confidence. Start by embracing your strengths and acknowledging your accomplishments. Ask yourself what you like most about yourself; when people compliment you, what do they particularly say? See how it aligns with you. Recognise the unique qualities that make you special and valuable. Practice positive self-talk and challenge negative self-perceptions. For example, spend 15 minutes in the morning talking in a positive way about yourself: "I am happy,everything works out for me the way I want,my life is beautiful in every way,I love myself and the people around me,and I am my own muse." You might not be sure about it at first, but once you get used to it, you will not be able to start your morning without the 15-minute positive self-talk because that's what will give you the motivation first thing in the morning. Surround yourself with supportive and empowering individuals who uplift you and believe in your potential. Engage in activities that challenge you and push you out of your comfort zone, as this will help you build resilience and inner strength, which are essential qualities of "that girl."

Develop a Signature Style

"That girl" is often recognised for her impeccable style. Take the time to experiment with different fashion trends and find what suits you best. From hairstyles to shoe styles to bow trends, trying everything out will not only help you find your own style but will also get you to learn more about different styles and have more knowledge about trends and fashion history. Whether it's elegant and sophisticated or edgy and bold, embrace a style that reflects your personality and makes you feel confident. Pay attention to details such as grooming, accessorising, and personal hygiene. Those small details totally change your style; for example, your hairstyle can present you as the clean girl, the messy girl, or the girly girl. Everything you do with your hairstyle, jewellery, or shoes says so much about you, so be aware of what kind of girl you want to show up as, but most importantly, remember to be yourself in every style because that's what will make you different. Developing a signature style is not just about following the latest fashion trends but also about expressing your unique personality through your appearance. Experiment, have fun, and find what makes you feel comfortable and empowered.

Prioritize Self-Care

Reaching your highest potential also requires you to take care of yourself mentally and physically. This one might take some time to build; it takes time to focus on yourself and adapt to new habits. To become "that girl," it's crucial to prioritise self-care.


Make sure to establish healthy habits such as regular exercise, nourishing your body with nutritious food, and getting enough sleep. Taking care of yourself physically is one of the main aspects of reaching your highest potential, too; be aware of what you put in your mouth. You are what you eat, they say. You fill your stomach with junk and fat, and you become full of junk. Not only that, but it also affects your brain and your body in a way that you become less smarter, more lazy, demotivated, and start to think of yourself as a useless person, and that brings you down more. Yes, what we eat affects us in many ways we may not know about. Eating healthy or considering more of what we put in our mouths is a form of self-care too.


Taking care of yourself mentally is such a crucial aspect to focus on since it’s the key that will help you reach whatever you dream of. Our mental state is so important to take care of; you have to set your mind to what you want the most, you have to build that bubble that protects your mind from whatever is happening around you, and you have to limit your time with whatever affects you easily, if not cutting off the connection for your own sake. What we surround ourselves with says so much about us; for example, you go out with that group of friends who, every time, make fun of or tease everyone coming their way. What does that say about you? Even if you don’t participate in such behaviour, you're still in the same group, so what is said about them is said about you too. You have to be careful with who you spend time with and surround yourself with because it says so much about you without you doing or saying anything.

Take care of your mental and emotional well-being by practicing relaxation techniques such as meditation or journaling. Additionally, engage in activities that bring you joy and help you relax, such as practicing mindfulness or indulging in a hobby you love.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish but rather a necessity for personal growth and overall well-being. When you prioritise self-care, you have more energy and confidence to tackle the challenges that come your way.

Continuously Learn and Grow

"That girl" is always seeking personal and professional growth. She doesn't stop; she keeps growing in every possible way: she listens to podcasts, she reads, she learns more every day, she likes to make connections with people, she tries to be more social, and she develops new hobbies every now and then. Make a habit of setting goals and continuously challenging yourself to learn new skills. Stay curious and open-minded, whether it's through reading books, attending workshops, or pursuing further education. Embrace opportunities for self-improvement and embrace a growth mindset. Seek feedback from others, and be willing to adapt and improve based on constructive criticism. Remember, personal growth is a lifelong journey, and there is always room for improvement. By constantly learning and growing, you not only become a better version of yourself but also inspire others around you. It's all about building the habit and sticking to it; try to make something new every day. For example, today is me starting to read a new book and tomorrow is me applying to a new course. Always thrive to grow and learn more because that is what makes you more interesting, and not only do people start to enjoy your company more but also get inspired to learn from you.

Surround Yourself with Inspiring Individuals

The people we surround ourselves with greatly influence our mindset and aspirations. Surround yourself with individuals who inspire and motivate you. Seek out mentors who have achieved success in areas you are passionate about, and learn from their experiences. Additionally, build a network of like-minded individuals who support and uplift each other. Engage in meaningful conversations and collaborations that stimulate your personal and professional growth. Remember, your network is your net worth, so choose your connections wisely. By surrounding yourself with inspiring individuals, you create a positive and empowering environment that fuels your journey to becoming "that girl."

Embrace Failure and Resilience

Becoming "that girl" is not without its challenges. Embrace failure as a stepping stone to success and develop resilience in the face of setbacks. That girl doesn't give up when she faces failures; she might need a break or something to break, but she always gets back stronger, and most importantly, she doesn't give up. That girl doesn't start whining when something doesn't work out the way she wanted; that girl immediately tries to find another solution and works with what she has instead of complaining about what she doesn't have. That girl strives to find solutions and work out everything by herself. Learn from your mistakes, adapt, and keep moving forward. Remember, setbacks are temporary, and they provide valuable lessons that contribute to your growth. Cultivate a positive mindset and see failures as opportunities for growth and learning. Surround yourself with a support system that encourages and motivates you during difficult times. Embracing failure and resilience is key to overcoming obstacles and achieving your goals. Remember, every successful person has faced failures along the way, but it's their resilience and determination that set them apart. Remember that it's your mindset that differentiates you from any other person; it might lift you up or drag you down, so be careful with how you react to things when they don't work out your way.

Share Your Success and Empower Others

As you progress on your journey to becoming "that girl," remember to share your success and empower others along the way. Lift others up, celebrate their achievements, and be a source of inspiration for those around you. Being that girl is also a source of inspiration to the ones around her; she's the muse to a lot of people; she's the girl that people learn from a lot and get back to her when they face something they can't solve; and she's the girl with the solution. Try to use your platform and influence to advocate for causes you believe in and make a positive impact on the lives of others. Remember, true success is not only about personal accomplishments but also about making a difference in the world. Share your knowledge, experiences, and resources with others, and encourage them to reach their full potential. By empowering others, you create a ripple effect of positive change.

In conclusion, becoming "that girl" is a journey of self-discovery, self-confidence, and personal growth. By defining your own version of "that girl," cultivating self-confidence, developing a signature style, prioritising self-care, continuously learning and growing, surrounding yourself with inspiring individuals, embracing failure and resilience, and sharing your success with others, you will be well on your way to becoming the best version of yourself and embodying the qualities that make "that girl" so remarkable.

Remember, you have the power to become "that girl" and create a life that is authentic, fulfilling, and inspiring. Remember that being that girl is not a specific standard you need to reach; being that girl is reaching your own potential and being the best version of yourself through your own values, style, and taste.

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